Meeting your partner’s parents for the first time this New Year? We can help

Purnima Chauhan, clinical psychologist, Lissun, suggested showing genuine interest in their values and cultural beliefs to build a bond. “Know beforehand of any family traditions that one must be aware of.”

Talk to your partner beforehand and prepare yourself about what to expect. Being mindful towards cultural differences and awareness of specific topics to avoid will be useful for every person, said Chauhan.

Appropriate dressing, and knowledge of common interests also set the tone and make everyone comfortable, she added. First impressions are the last, as they say.

“Keep a positive attitude or if I can say just be yourself as setting wrong expectations from either side will be disastrous later,” she tells indianexpress.com in an interaction.

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What are some tips for conversing with them over a meal?

Conversing over a meal is a great opportunity for building a rapport but also helps understanding a lot about each other. “Politeness and etiquettes on the table will go a long way in building relationships,” said Chauhan.

When talking, try to ask open-ended questions and include everyone in the conversation. From food choices to family history is a good conversation starter on the table as it can help one learn lot of the family history.

Show genuine interest in family and not being too serious is an ice breaker, Chauhan suggested, adding that you should not shy away from sharing your own story too.

How can your partner help you be prepared?

Partners play a significant role in helping you prepare for the meeting. Chauhan suggested asking these questions from your partner before the meeting.

• Understand and seek clarity about family dynamics for smoother conversations.
• Ask for any customs or behaviors you should be aware of.
• Show emotional support and encouragement to your partner and let him know of any disagreements you may hold.
• Work together in planning potential conversational topics that can help break the ice.